Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[batty]

Hurricane88 thanks for your reply. That Singaporean Indian man is not known to me. I read his sad case in the newspapers.

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by batty

Hurricane88 thanks for your reply. That Singaporean Indian man is not known to me. I read his sad case in the newspapers.

Yes, we read all the bad press about Vn gers because of a small number of greedy gers and agencies.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

Brother, if you want to do well for your sister in law advertising on a whore board for someone to marry her is not a good idea. No offense to the brothers but the cast of characters here are not the most wholesome. Brother, your marketing should be aimed at social clubs and other organizations that have more desirable characteristics among its people. No offense brother.

This warm thread in a sex forum is titled Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner and it is a serious thread with wholesome values and cast of characters providing guiding advice for getting started a new chapter in life. How unwholesome could that be?

We need to recognize clearly that wholesome and unwholesome deeds/thoughts/actions produce corresponding good and bad results. As a person sows, so shall he reap. Good begets good, and evil begets evil. Please do not let any unwholesome thoughts or emotions arises in your mind

Also you cannot expect girls seeking marriage to gather in Kinokuniya's Best Sellers section cos the area is already flooded with "High Classs" maids and unwholesome male reader with no intend to buy a paperback or a paper clip..........Ha-Ha

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by ekemono

A word of advice bro. Make sure to check if the divorcee has any maintenence to pay for child/wife and how is he coping if there is.
Other than the Decree Nisi to proof his status, there is an Ancillary Matters Document that list down all the monetary settlement/maintenence.

Good advice....

Hope you manage to run the errand with my answer...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by maxrex

My Vietnamese wife's sister will like to find and marry a Singaporean man.


2) Blue-collar job is not accepted. No offence intended.

You may wan to discuss with your sister in-law again...this condition (2) can tweak a bit because the blue collar workers are the one most likely to marry foreign brides from Vn...

White collar or office workers normally have no problem to find brides or gf...this group of men are mostly educated and may not find your sis in-law to their liking esp. now she is a MILF...

Blue or white collar now in Singapore is just marginal diff...singapore blue collar workers are mostly store men or supervisors, technician, foreman, craftsmen, etc...which had very stable income and are mostly matured men and no time for finding gers...

I have seen similar type of Vn gers marrying this category of men living near my neighbourhood...

above is just my 2 cents worth...

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by maxrex

My Vietnamese wife's sister will like to find and marry a Singaporean man. ......

After going through her terms and conditions.

Just 3 (Three) question:

1) What's her concept of marriage?
2)What are her expectations of marriage beside the above T&C?
3) Why don't you introduce her to your circle of friends or relatives instead??

[maxrex]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

and may not find your sis in-law to their liking esp. now she is a MILF...

I will like to clarify that my sister-in-law is not MILF as you think because she has never been married before nor have any kids yet. To this day, she is still single.

[maxrex]

Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

1) What's her concept of marriage?
2) What are her expectations of marriage beside the above T&C?
3) Why don't you introduce her to your circle of friends or relatives instead??

1) Register marriage legally either in Singapore or Vietnam. And have a wedding dinner ceremony, no need to have many tables. 10 - 15 tables are sufficient as long as the wedding bill is not so expensive.

2) She hopes for a happy marriage. She does not expect herself or her future husband to be pefect spouses as there may be some quarrels along their lives. Communication, respect, loyalty and love are important in the marriage. She also mentions that her future husband should discuss the marriage expectations with her together because she also wants to know about his expectations.

3) All my male cousins and male friends (including my ex-classmates) are already married. And I already asked them if any of their male friends is single and is interested in knowing a Vietnamese woman and I have told them of these conditions set by my sister-in-law.

[SingViet]

Aiyoh, 27 years old roi and not pretty , still so many criteria. Unless she is well educated, it's too much to ask. She wants well educated and good income Singapore guys and these Singapore guys want young, pretty and sexy Vn gals. The equation is just not there for her.

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by ekemono

yah, viet wife/gf can be very stubborn at times.
Just like my wife, everytime we go to ICA, always heated up.

But the thing i learned is no need to raise your voice at them. Tell them firmly and if they still insist, let them hit the wall. They will come back and starts to open thier ears to listen this time.

Very true and very wise!

I would not say all viet gals are like that but i would like to believe that 90% of them have an inborn ferocious trait in them. Perhaps its due to the harsh environment that they have to grow up and adapt to.....

In fact, barring knowledge, experience and exposure, I think this trait is very useful in doing business....they will try and try and try until someone or something proved them otherwise...but then a short while after that, they'll be back to their "stuborness" on another thing pretty soon.....

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by RAW Man

Vietnamese woman likes to do it RAW

Well, according to hear-say,....AIDS is on a rampant rise in vietnam!!!!

Pls continue to do it raw IF you feel your life is as worthless as a few moments of pleasure...

Take care!!

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Not sure if fellow bros realized this, it's very difficult for Vietnam gals to wake up in the morning. Even if they sleep early the night before, they still want to sleep late. My wife, even after being in Singapore for quite some time too, still find it difficult to wake up in the morning to go market. She refused to wake up at 7am, saying it's alright to go market at 9am. The Vietnam gals my wife got to know in Singapore are all the same too, sleep till 10 plus to 11 daily. Lazy bums.

Agreed!!!

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Aiyoh, 27 years old roi and not pretty , still so many criteria. Unless she is well educated, it's too much to ask. She wants well educated and good income Singapore guys and these Singapore guys want young, pretty and sexy Vn gals. The equation is just not there for her.

AGreed to all bros who have commented ... NOT easy and Equation Defintiely NOT there ...

Criteria of a Blue Collar, guessed must have someone who have taught her , simply reason it's much more easier for her to get LTVP - PR - Citizenship ...

And seriously speaking, not all blue collar workers earn alot .... and person who earns alot definitely got other better choices (NO offence and NOT saying she is no good)

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Sounded like what Bro cassanova03 story but his case was mother initially strongly objected...but happy ending la...hope the same for you too...

Watch your wife carefully...like what bro SingViet said before after more than 3 years than he started trusting his wife...

If possible, tell your wife dun contact all her WL frens here anymore...WL frens are the common source of problems...

Talking about me?? HAHA!!

Yes, no matter what others say, if you think that you can handle what you are doing and knows what you are getting yourself into, then DO IT!!

There are no guarantees for any thing in life...much less a marriage....for the rest of the road ahead, I wish you much bliss and luck....Believe me...this is just the beginning...there are many more problems and situations that you will have to face even though you are married....In order to maintain the marriage, always keep a cool head and talk...yes talk a lot with her!!

Cheers!

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by xyman

so did she really go to hotel with customers? Sorry for asking cos i believe a lot bros go thru the same ordeal and need advice to overcome these...

I use advice here because advise is a noun...

Generally, I guessed the question of going to hotel with her customer is of no concern to us.

If you really like her and you know what she does for a living, what's past is past...why try to find out something that you know will hurt you 99.99%?

What good does it do you? You will only get sad, angry, frustrated and might end up getting into a quarrel with your attitude of speaking and your bad mood.....

My question is: Even if you have a Singaporean gf, do you ask her before marriage if she's a virgin and has she been poked before? if yes how many guys? one guy how many times??

Come on! We're in the year 2010 now....