Do you prefer to marry a PRC, M'sian, Thai, Indo, Viet, others or our local girl

[Heart Break Kid]

Originally Posted by Wooden_Handle

I beg to be different, sorry for bros that may be offended,

I do have my 1st choice in SG gals, then MY gals, simply the SG gals i met didnt even ask how much i earn a month, or the MY gals, but for PRC the 2nd meeting they will be probing already.

S'pore & Msia will not directly ask you how much is your salary a month if they do not know you for long but inside their mind they start calculating how much you earn a month, what type of car you drive & more importantly what type of houses your parents stay before they pursue on further with you

[aces68]

Originally Posted by Wooden_Handle

I beg to be different, sorry for bros that may be offended,

I do have my 1st choice in SG gals, then MY gals, simply the SG gals i met didnt even ask how much i earn a month, or the MY gals, but for PRC the 2nd meeting they will be probing already.

That's because I believe in SG and MY culture, it is considered very rude to ask directly about one's salary. But I suppose the culture in PRC is different, furthermore if the PRC is a WL, naturally she wants to find out if you are a big fish or not.

[Wooden_Handle]

Anyway, I must stressed there is certain PRC that keep asking how much I earned every month, not all the PRC from SG or PRC from PRC, I have met a lot of wonderful ladies that are PRC and they take care of me alot.

[aces68]

Originally Posted by Wooden_Handle

Anyway, I must stressed there is certain PRC that keep asking how much I earned every month, not all the PRC from SG or PRC from PRC, I have met a lot of wonderful ladies that are PRC and they take care of me alot.

bro, hope you not offended by my question:- the wonderful PRC ladies are non-FL or FL type ?

[Wooden_Handle]

Bro she was very active FL last time during she stay. I also quote myself as generic job but she can well quote abt range of salary tat the job can get. Wonderful lady she is doing all the research..

Originally Posted by aces68

bro, hope you not offended by my question:- the wonderful PRC ladies are non-FL or FL type ?

[Wooden_Handle]

Have faith bro, we are not that bad, as far as PRC concerned. Have faith and just expose the BLACK SHEEP among them.
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[xyz1001]

Originally Posted by Wooden_Handle

Bro she was very active FL last time during she stay. I also quote myself as generic job but she can well quote abt range of salary tat the job can get. Wonderful lady she is doing all the research..

Bro, i think they have a little black note book that list all jobs and salary range so that to facilitate them to identify potential customers. AND i think they share this wonderful research.

[911GT3Cup]

this thread is long, so only managed to read some postings only but i will chip in my view.

personally, only SG for me. @ least my partner knows that i have to go reservist and what that really is. what ippt is. why we must do this in sg (not only ns but many other things). its complicated. my bro and cousin, and some relative did marry PRC,viet,thai,malaysia. except m'sia, no proper conversation ever happen between me and them ever. its long story.

and for the part about loving future-wife, that's a matter of luck. there are still many loving, caring girls in sg and doing well at work too.

just my 2 cents

[tendersex]

My wife is PRC and I have not regretted so far.

It's a matter of fate which country's girl you eventually marry. For me, I don't set out looking for a particular nationality. But from my experience interacting with girls from different countries, I find that Singaporean girls are generally harder to put up with. Maybe it's because I don't have super good looks or a senior title like VP. When I think of Singaporean girls, many negative words immediately come to mind, such as "spoilt", "arrogant", "materialistic", "domineering", "unsincere", etc (the list is long). I am not saying there are no good local girls, but I just can't be bothered to search for one. It's the same principle as why some companies like to hire foreign talent - many foreign girls win in terms of attitude, and in many cases, looks and ability (cooking, sex, etc) as well.

Having said all that, it still feels fantastic to bonk someone who can speak Singlish

[ekemono]

This thread will never ends.
As a matter of fact I am starting to feel if the thread was created to invite arguements between bros with diffrerent school of thoughts. TS had never come back since. But fortunately bros had accepted other's view in good faith.

It may seems good to share or learn from it but at most we only gets to see a consistent pattern of opinions that indicate its preference for a certain nationality. This thrend will repeat for as long as there are bros willing to share and pen it out. But it still revolve within the same cycle, there will be no breakthru for as long as the posters remains faithful to the topic.

Any decent guy who had some form of interaction with different nationality of ladies will try to voice out thier preferences, and certainly I believe it was thru past and/or present experiences. Everybody dates and fall in love with everybody else, and everybody wants to share with you the "good news".

So which is the "good news"?
IMHO, there are no good news but only 2 factors involve; the condition and the citeria.

The condition in which you are set in, which mean who the hell are you presently seeing now? And the citeria displayed by the opposite sex.
Be it viet, SG, Thai, Malaysian, Ang Moh, Indian, Minah, PRC.. blah blah blah, it doesn't matter cos we must not deny there will always be good and bad ppl in every nationality. It is rather, the commitment and sincerity they displayed. So when we talk about finding a good mate the topic does not applies anymore, in fact it may generate stereotyping.

While its true a local gal has priviledge to higher education and have access to higher income, it does amount to a reason to marry one, least for a loving marriage. Moreover, job security are a thing of the past. Some guys still take this as a important consideration. It is not wrong, as long as it can substain the marriage.

Many a times I hear of the word "culture" that may affect the relationship between 2 persons or that the other nationality spouse may not accept and adapt well to ours.
Firstly does SG has a culture, can we say that Kiasu is one of them? How are modern culture develop? Is it thru daily practice of the ppl in the society?
A culture does not dictate the choice for a partner nor does it determines the fate of the marraige. It is the "willingness" to adapt.
What drives this willingness? Love?, a hope for a better life? money?
I dun know. Try asking her.

In summary,
choosing a partner whom you hope he/she will equally contributes happiness into the marriage starts with how much that person makes you feel complete, consistently. Then evaluate that person's personality. It may not need be fabulous or God-like but it must be consistent.
Only you can tell what you like when you see one.

Thru out my lifetime of roller coaster relationships and articles i read, I instil the first rule for a "potential" partner. And that is her respect, kindness and generousity towards her own family, elders and as well as with my side of my family.
And God blessed I think I have found mine.

**I do not meant to carries any comments as a direct confrontation to any bro's comment, it is pointless to do so in this "virtual world". Rather, I sense a motive of the thread and hope that my 2 cents worth may help bros to scroll less into this thread with every updates but only to find the same cycle repeating itself.

[kiko]

No matter , what races the gal is , the most important thing is the gal loves you at her bottom of her heart. i had learnt if the gal loves u , more than u loves her, then its worth it!

[glooper83]

Originally Posted by kiko

No matter , what races the gal is , the most important thing is the gal loves you at her bottom of her heart. i had learnt if the gal loves u , more than u loves her, then its worth it!

Yup, it is always nicer to be loved than to love. But the difficult thing would be to measure the love. Love for what also depends... Sigh... Brings us to the qns, what is love...

[911GT3Cup]

it depends on your character. there's no right or wrong but it boils down to personal preference. humans are emotional. if you are mixing around with certain nationality, say PRC, in time to come you will develop feeling for a certain individual. from there the emotion takes control, sometimes so much so that it overtakes your sexual desire*. at the point you thought u can't live without her and u can accept everything about her from there on. you don't give a damn about if she's from prc, thai or whatever place, or even don't mind her past, or family background. most guys are dick in this aspect. can all this acceptance be forever? nobody can tell, whether its sg, prc, thai or viet.

i like to talk about things, and hate it when i have explain from the beginning. the 40 over years of sg has changed us. most importantly, the change was when we were nothing and therefore during the developing stage this change has 'engrave' a certain form culture in us. u can say kiasu is one thing but it is not unique in sg. my grandma and granddad was from china, but through yrs i knew them, they behave nothing like our relative who's still in prc. its a difference that cannot be easily explained. undeniably the difference is THERE.

what do u talk to your viet partner? or prc partner? i can't imagine. sometimes i will just talk about 'hey, remember back in the days we used to order milk in primary school?' my wife knows what i am talking about. we all knew what heard about rasa sayang. temasek is singapore. we all knew about the infamous campaign, courtesy compaign etc. we hate pple who cough w/o covering up, or at least do something, we agree that spitting is ill mannered. its easy to talk and we spoke in true blue sg language english, mandarin mixed with classic malay-converted grammers... without having worry that he or she will be clueless.

i guess some bros must have bad experience with local gals. maybe it was sheer luck that my friends and my ex-gfs has nothing link to materialistic, snob or arrogant which some bros listed. they, like many of us are just singaporeans. we always complain, and the same comments will always surface for sg gals.

*(e.g. she's not into sex, saying will do it after marriage. love makes us say yes, complied to her wish - have we ever thought her disinterest could be a sneak peek of what your sex life would be next time? no, we just blinded by love, emotions, feel sorry for this and that.)

[icecum]

My OC it from PRC if i got a choice again i will still go for PRC......

[wodemama]

Originally Posted by lambo_tan

i'm in the early 30s , owns a car, with an above average look , above average income but i don't foresee myself getting married in the near future. Probably bcos i'm not willing to lower my expectations and i can't seem to find an attactive sg woman with a good personality, probably it's like wat some said , all the good ones are already taken up.

Enjoying bachelorhood might be a thing if u have a grp of friends but once they abandon you to get married, the boredom kicks in.

hmm how do you know that your have an above average look, what is the yardstick you compare your look with?

Originally Posted by longwinter

actually no matter wad race or wad country la, wad l feel impt is the chemistry and the feel la between me and the gal.

True true. Well said. Love is not about the skin color or religion. Its about sharing your life with the other person.

Originally Posted by ekemono

Hmmm. what culture is this? Can you share with it with us?
Since it can influence your decision it should be an info useful by us SG single men.

Ya lor, pls enlighten us.

Originally Posted by kiko

No matter , what races the gal is , the most important thing is the gal loves you at her bottom of her heart. i had learnt if the gal loves u , more than u loves her, then its worth it!

Agreed!