If you've only ever dated one girl

[CalmInControl]

Originally Posted by prettymannequin

Any bros here have the experience of marrying their first girlfriend? Will guys regret never playing the field, especially if they met their first loves when they young, and were faithful throughout?

A lot of my friends are quite conservative and have (or will soon) marry their first girlfriends; or at least the first person they've slept with.

We were discussing it a couple of years ago and a couple of them said they wished they could play the field but that their relationships mean much more to them so they were never tempted. And they're not the type to put themselves in situations where there is that much temptation - especially if living together.

Personally, I don't think I could ever do it because my personality is too inquisitive and likes to compare experiences to find out what is good/bad. So in my mind if I only ever slept with one person I'd never know whether or not the intimacy was strong/weak with that person and I'd essentially feel as though I might be missing out on a whole of relationship goodness.

So for me I don't particularly need to play the field (and occasionally wish I were more inclined to do so) but I think sleeping with a few people is/was necessary to get perspective. If nothing else it helps you refine what traits you like and/or dislike to ensure future partners are more compatible.

[kitspanjandrum]

Chances are very low that people will marry thier first love

[prettymannequin]

Originally Posted by CalmInControl

A lot of my friends are quite conservative and have (or will soon) marry their first girlfriends; or at least the first person they've slept with.

We were discussing it a couple of years ago and a couple of them said they wished they could play the field but that their relationships mean much more to them so they were never tempted. And they're not the type to put themselves in situations where there is that much temptation - especially if living together.

Personally, I don't think I could ever do it because my personality is too inquisitive and likes to compare experiences to find out what is good/bad. So in my mind if I only ever slept with one person I'd never know whether or not the intimacy was strong/weak with that person and I'd essentially feel as though I might be missing out on a whole of relationship goodness.

So for me I don't particularly need to play the field (and occasionally wish I were more inclined to do so) but I think sleeping with a few people is/was necessary to get perspective. If nothing else it helps you refine what traits you like and/or dislike to ensure future partners are more compatible.

Golden. You got your first point buddy, my humble point for your sharing.

[JustLearn]

Originally Posted by CalmInControl

A lot of my friends are quite conservative and have (or will soon) marry their first girlfriends; or at least the first person they've slept with.

We were discussing it a couple of years ago and a couple of them said they wished they could play the field but that their relationships mean much more to them so they were never tempted. And they're not the type to put themselves in situations where there is that much temptation - especially if living together.

Personally, I don't think I could ever do it because my personality is too inquisitive and likes to compare experiences to find out what is good/bad. So in my mind if I only ever slept with one person I'd never know whether or not the intimacy was strong/weak with that person and I'd essentially feel as though I might be missing out on a whole of relationship goodness.

So for me I don't particularly need to play the field (and occasionally wish I were more inclined to do so) but I think sleeping with a few people is/was necessary to get perspective. If nothing else it helps you refine what traits you like and/or dislike to ensure future partners are more compatible.

I also know quite a few people who had tied the knot with their first love. But I've never really ask them why they did not do "shopping" first before committing. But one commented this "Why change something that is never broken? If there is a crack, fix it and not change it."

So to me, either these people are determined, easily contented or just plain lazy. But they are free to do whatever they like. I should feel happy for them.

[gotnotime]

Tbh, I doubt I'll regret not playing the field if she's everything I can ever ask for. That summed up my first gf until we broke up though. But still, yolo and no regrets playing

[CalmInControl]

Originally Posted by JustLearn

So to me, either these people are determined, easily contented or just plain lazy. But they are free to do whatever they like. I should feel happy for them.

Well, if you 'shop around' and never find anyone who satisfies you like your first, then you're going to regret it. A lot.

If their personality allows them to be satisfied without the need for other experiences to compare against then it's great for them

[hornykiddo]

I just wished my ex or BFF didn't went back to her ex... I think by far she is the only person that made me think seriously about a relationship. :/ oh well. haha.

I think that whole issue changed me into a colder person that I was before :/

[happywoody]

there was a time when i was young and idealistic.
i met a girl and i thought she was the only one i would marry.

strange, we were never in a relationship and we never went beyond holding hands and friendly hugs. but we were close. she had a pretty sad childhood, and somehow when she met the young idealistic me, she started believing again.

we left for further studies and still kept in touch. we would go on and have different relationships and still i felt very strongly about her.

but some how time and distance and living in the moment stole the ideals away. eventually, she got married and we lost contact.

today, i wonder if somehow we had just settled down with each other, would we be ignorantly blissful?

over the decades, i lived life and i can safely say - been there, done that - to most things. the innocence is lost but knowing what's out there and experiencing it makes me treasure what i have.

aren't we all wanting to love and be loved? does it matter if it's our first or last love?

[sammygirlgirl]

I was married with my first and only gf which is the same for her.we lose our virgin to each other the third time we met.i love her alot but she always insist break up than we patch,cycle keep repeating until frienss also give up advicing us.until her mum got stroke than I suggest buying a flat and get married so her mum can stay with us and we can hire a maid.she agree and says she will listen to whatever I says.i believe

Her mum and uncle and auntie is the source why we kept quarreling,she say I too sticky. Always wana spend time with her when she is busy.i cannot understand if dont wana spend time together,why did she marry me?

I think I love her too much more than she love me.i regretted marrying so fast without at least having a second gf.

[Topup]

I personally know of 8 couples who married young, ie, married before 25 years old. All are either divorced or separated except 1 couple. Other friends who 'played' around including myself married late 20's to early 30's all now happily married. I'm not trying to say what is right and what is wrong but the statistics speak for themselves.

[joncheong]

Originally Posted by Topup

I personally know of 8 couples who married young, ie, married before 25 years old. All are either divorced or separated except 1 couple. Other friends who 'played' around including myself married late 20's to early 30's all now happily married. I'm not trying to say what is right and what is wrong but the statistics speak for themselves.

totally agreed with this statistics ..

[prettymannequin]

Originally Posted by sammygirlgirl

I was married with my first and only gf which is the same for her.we lose our virgin to each other the third time we met.i love her alot but she always insist break up than we patch,cycle keep repeating until frienss also give up advicing us.until her mum got stroke than I suggest buying a flat and get married so her mum can stay with us and we can hire a maid.she agree and says she will listen to whatever I says.i believe

Her mum and uncle and auntie is the source why we kept quarreling,she say I too sticky. Always wana spend time with her when she is busy.i cannot understand if dont wana spend time together,why did she marry me?

I think I love her too much more than she love me.i regretted marrying so fast without at least having a second gf.

I'm so sorry to hear that bro, but thanks for sharing your story. Hopefully you guys will work it out together.

[sammygirlgirl]

Originally Posted by prettymannequin

I'm so sorry to hear that bro, but thanks for sharing your story. Hopefully you guys will work it out together.

Laat year we went counselling, she ageee to try one last time,after two months back to her old self...

[yang punk]

Originally Posted by sammygirlgirl

I was married with my first and only gf which is the same for her.....

You are conservative but she is a free spirit. She married you only because of the solution you provided for her mom.

Bet you she is screwing around without your knowledge!

[Yakuza]

Ms PM ... u want to know the truth .. nothing but d truth.... but can u accept the truth .. curious to know... wonder no more ... hihihi...

Me or shd say we together .. was a fairy tale ..we were young ... she 21 .. me 24 ... was love at 1st sight and we both were the 1st n only and after 3 yrs we finally tied the knot. .. nvr had any 2nd .. faithful to each other ... for a total of nearly 23 years .. and as the marriage vows ... till death do us part ... sadly she makes the 1st move to be with god .. and it took me nearly 3 yrs to overcome my grief .. to free myself ever since till now.

Most probably we grew up with quite a similar background, that's why we were a 1-man-1-woman type of thinking and thru out we nvr even ever thought of drifting to find the 2nd venture. Yes, we do come across some attractions but not temptation for both of us, we talk abt it, we admired, we praised, but nvr go any further ...and we leave it as it is and start a new day afresh without mentioning again.

Of course .. we did went thru thick n thin, quarrels and disagreements ... but we aso experience true love, support, understandings, forgiveness, happiness, joy n laughter, etc ... and most of all ... uncompromised n without expectation from both side but with care, concern n sacrifice in mind ... cos if anyone of us were to go thru together with compromise n expectations ... the partnership will be doom from the start ..

My own 1 cent of experience tat I've gone thru more than half of my life..

Originally Posted by prettymannequin

Any bros here have the experience of marrying their first girlfriend? Will guys regret never playing the field, especially if they met their first loves when they young, and were faithful throughout?

Or have you ever been in that situation and how is it like? Share stories lehhh.

HappyOwl .. almost is as good as missing a number in 4D n Toto draw .. lol

Originally Posted by HappyOwl

Me! Me! Me!
I was with my first girlfriend almost from the start till death do us apart. Almost
Nonetheless, if I ever date you, you will always be my first & my last.

YES .. acidicavex .. it was love at 1st sight .. (may not be) happily ever after (but we stick together thru thick n thin) ... put me in tat 0.1% .. lol ... n no regret too

Originally Posted by acidicavex

haha funny u throw such a question here in sbf Ms PM. a majority of male dom looking for something forum.

I think those love at 1st sight thing does exist but happily ever after hmmm maybe 0.1% of that love at 1st sight grp will have no regret they have choosen that particular woman or man.

kitspanjandrum ... chances r low .. but we make it thru ..

Originally Posted by kitspanjandrum

Chances are very low that people will marry thier first love

sammygirlgirl ... I totally agree with u ... I loved her more than she loved me .. if u asked me now as compare to my previous life cycle ... I would like to find and hv a lady to love me more than I love her now ...

Originally Posted by sammygirlgirl

I was married with my first and only gf which is the same for her.
I think I love her too much more than she love me.i regretted marrying so fast without at least having a second gf.

Topup .. some truth in ur observations .. but more true in tis 21st century's Gen X & Y period and maybe more so in Gen Z, if there's any... during the Baby Boomer generation .. we believed in "once married, its a lifetime thingy .. divorcing was a taboo word to use .. n will be sort of a karma in ur next life .. ie .. its a sin (in Buddhism believed) .. tats y no matter wat happen .. they still stick together in their marriage vows .. "till death do us part" ..

Originally Posted by Topup

I personally know of 8 couples who married young, ie, married before 25 years old. All are either divorced or separated except 1 couple. Other friends who 'played' around including myself married late 20's to early 30's all now happily married. I'm not trying to say what is right and what is wrong but the statistics speak for themselves.

lMHO .. my little sharing ... cheerssssss ..