Why is it so hard to remain friends?

[nakamara]

Originally Posted by gam3r

dat one i duno bah.. but for me.. hmm juz went thru a breakup recently.. my gf of 6 mths left me.. u can consider 6 mths short la.. but i really love her alot.. well.. i can only say dat we are like strangers now.. almost a mth nvr msg, nv +++ le.. haiz.. saddening.. i miss her pussy.

i tot this will be another chi qing man here...but end up say miss her pussy?! &*%&*^%(*!!! haha

Originally Posted by nakamara

i tot this will be another chi qing man here...but end up say miss her pussy?! &*%&*^%(*!!! haha

yesh.. im chi qing de.. i still love her though, but sex is great.. i took her virgin and my virgin gif her summore leh.. cb.. now only can go gl pia chabor liao..

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by gam3r

yesh.. im chi qing de.. i still love her though, but sex is great.. i took her virgin and my virgin gif her summore leh.. cb.. now only can go gl pia chabor liao..

when sex comes into the picture,u may turn out not to be so chin qing le as sex may be one of the factors on why u r so sad nw.nthing much emotionally involved,more to physical sexual needs.just my 2 cents worth.

[nakamara]

Originally Posted by gam3r

yesh.. im chi qing de.. i still love her though, but sex is great.. i took her virgin and my virgin gif her summore leh.. cb.. now only can go gl pia chabor liao..

hmmm...quite true for me when my 2nd gave me her V and i gave her mine...really hard to let go of that relationship although we lasted 2 yrs with me having a few flings...it's almost 3 yrs ago when we broke up but i still think of her sometimes

[ahpaul25]

Originally Posted by nakamara

hmmm...quite true for me when my 2nd gave me her V and i gave her mine...really hard to let go of that relationship although we lasted 2 yrs with me having a few flings...it's almost 3 yrs ago when we broke up but i still think of her sometimes

Wahhhhhhhhhh..............I'm 1st time see my bro so emotional leh......... blame yourself lah so flirt, so many flings, haiizzzzzzzzzzz......... Regret liao bo?

[nakamara]

Originally Posted by ahpaul25

Wahhhhhhhhhh..............I'm 1st time see my bro so emotional leh......... blame yourself lah so flirt, so many flings, haiizzzzzzzzzzz......... Regret liao bo?

no la never regret...cuz she is a control freak...everything want to control me one...at nite wan go out also cannot...wan go clubbing have to bluff her say i tired wan sleep early den go out...sianz rite? as ppl says ma...the more u dun wan a person to do something...the more the person wans to do it...so starting bluff her say sleep only until end up having flings lor...haha

[ahpaul25]

Originally Posted by nakamara

no la never regret...cuz she is a control freak...everything want to control me one...at nite wan go out also cannot...wan go clubbing have to bluff her say i tired wan sleep early den go out...sianz rite? as ppl says ma...the more u dun wan a person to do something...the more the person wans to do it...so starting bluff her say sleep only until end up having flings lor...haha

Wah kao......hahahaha.......as for me, I like my ger to be like that.......I tired of fuking around liao........rather choose a gf who can control me and make me tired every nite........ will also stick with her lah, blame me why I love her so much........ lolz

[nakamara]

Originally Posted by ahpaul25

Wah kao......hahahaha.......as for me, I like my ger to be like that.......I tired of fuking around liao........rather choose a gf who can control me and make me tired every nite........ will also stick with her lah, blame me why I love her so much........ lolz

that time sec sch only la so keep wanting go out play ma bo bian...sibeh jia lat leh...she also everytime threaten me dis n dat...hear liao oso sian

[ahpaul25]

Originally Posted by nakamara

that time sec sch only la so keep wanting go out play ma bo bian...sibeh jia lat leh...she also everytime threaten me dis n dat...hear liao oso sian

Chey..Sec sch huh........now old liao ....thinking diff........sure like gf stick u 1........ I also same thought as you when I young, don stick me pls.......hahahaa....... I remember that time when i very young...still a virgin...my gf come to my hse at nite, then i very tired......and sleep, knn....i tio raped by her....she lick my didi, and i was bonk by her......very shameful leh........ that's goes my 1st time........Damn...........

[nakamara]

Originally Posted by ahpaul25

Chey..Sec sch huh........now old liao ....thinking diff........sure like gf stick u 1........ I also same thought as you when I young, don stick me pls.......hahahaa....... I remember that time when i very young...still a virgin...my gf come to my hse at nite, then i very tired......and sleep, knn....i tio raped by her....she lick my didi, and i was bonk by her......very shameful leh........ that's goes my 1st time........Damn...........

haha i assume that she's not a V la? haha my sexual encounters also not much but the only thing i'm proud of is the fact i gave my V to my ex who is also a V...so never lose out...haha

Originally Posted by ahpaul25

Wah kao......hahahaha.......as for me, I like my ger to be like that.......I tired of fuking around liao........rather choose a gf who can control me and make me tired every nite........ will also stick with her lah, blame me why I love her so much........ lolz

absolutely agree.. tis are the type of relationships dat will last de lor.. shows dat the gal truely love u.. im oso a damn possessive guy de.. i nvr gif her much freedom and always wana control her.. but tats the way i show dat i care and i truely love her.. but end up forcing her to lie to me, den i lost all my trust in her. lol.. in the end she oso break wif me.. saddening.. wad haf i done wrong man.. lolx!~ no clean pussy to pia very sian.

[nakamara]

Originally Posted by gam3r

absolutely agree.. tis are the type of relationships dat will last de lor.. shows dat the gal truely love u.. im oso a damn possessive guy de.. i nvr gif her much freedom and always wana control her.. but tats the way i show dat i care and i truely love her.. but end up forcing her to lie to me, den i lost all my trust in her. lol.. in the end she oso break wif me.. saddening.. wad haf i done wrong man.. lolx!~ no clean pussy to pia very sian.

Ya lor...i also quite a possessive freak...if i see my gf dancing with another guy at disco I'll prob go ballistic...yup i caught her lying a few times also and i scolded her like fuck...she gave excuses that she didn't wanted me to be angry and told a "white lie"...knn i think damn bullshit...i every tell her to tell me things honestly i won't guarantee i won't get angry but my anger will go awy after awhile la...but it's better to come clean on somethings rather than live in fear of exposing yourself in the long run right?

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by young_ad

no offence taken from any of the brothers comments.

firstly, she was not a virgin.. (but i dunno if she sleeps around)

and yes, Kalture did allow underaged people in, i went there when i was 16.

and she's rich and didnt mind hanging out with me even though i m not.

i m just upset that i lost someone i considered a close friend.

and flying to australia would be out of the question. i guess i will haf to wait until she comes back. if she comes back.

Given her and your age, you may want to just consider the fact that both of you are just young. No matter how much you long for her. The pt here is that she is, not in any way, obligated to come back or even keep in touch.

Its a harsh and ... somewhat unfair reality. When girls go to Australia, they may find their "true love" or ... for that matter "part time love" while studying. The bonding for lovers who used to have studied together may tend to be rather strong.

Besides, even if you have the opportunity to keep in touch with her over MSN or e-mail, it may not be a good thing. Long distance relationship can easily ruin your finances (or, to put it simply, wallet). No doubt love seems mighty and formiable right now, we cannot live in constant denial of the reality that love is a passing emotion, like rain clouds.

Even for an old colleague who was married for some 10+ years, marriage is now a matter of responsibilities and duties, especially where her child is concerned.

Having to grow up to witness this is ... heart wrenching. In the words of this colleague, "love is not everything."

But, what should you do? Try to come to a level of compromise with the fact that she left and there is nothing you can do about it. Take it as an experience of life. You may think that you are the only Romeo of her life, but remember this saying "Ying Xiong Wu Yong Wu Zhi Di" (in English, even heroes may not have a place to fight sometimes)

To continue to cry or pick up yourself .... is a personal decision. Besides, its something you already know before you even posted anything here.

Young_ad: Below are my opinions and comments, it will be quite harsh no holds bar. So if you cannot accept harsh but true and honest opinion please stop reading here and move on to next post. I dont know who you are and have nothing against you so my comments and opinions are not out to flame you or disgrace you in any way, just my honest view. You have been warned so if you're ready carry on reading else stop here.

My views, when ppl are intoxicated, they are usually more honest about their emotions and feelings. Since you 2 already rubba rubba in the cab on the way back, my guess is that she's probably attracted to you physically and/or emotionally, or perhaps she just have the sudden urge to sextisfy her needs. Either way you 2 bang each other's brains out and now she's avoiding you after sending you a "sorry" sms. Based on my in-depth analysist, here are the few possible reasons why....

1) Your willie too small, didnt sextisfy her, so no point carry on with you
2) Your shagging skil below her, she didnt get her 'O', again no point
3) In your drunken stupor, you poke her arse which might be sacred to her and she's real piss with you.
4) She like you emotionally and has given her "Ultimate gift" to you and yet you act blur. She takes it as a rejection and naturally avoided you to prevent further humiliation to herself
5) After she's sexitisfied, she woke up to her senses and worried that you, as her platonic friend, might think of her as a slut, Hence avoid you.

IMO, the big mistake here is that you act blur the next day. When she wake up a simple smile, "goodmorning gorgeous" and a hug or peck on the cheeks would have ease the situation. Your silence made her feel unwanted and cheap. Thousand of things could have been running thru her mind including tots like, was her shagability not up to your standard or did she shag like a wild whore hence your cold shoulder?

What's done cannot be undone, ask yourselve honestly what do you want out of her? Normal platonic friendship, normal friend cum shagmate, gf? From that decision work out your best course of action. Just be honest and sincere whe you send her emails and/or sms. No point avoiding what happen that night, like it or not it has already happened. She got her need and you got yours, both of you should take it like adults and move on(if you want her as a friend). Or if you want her as a gf, tell her that nite together with these few weeks/days of cold shoulders made you realise how much you missed her and how much she mean to you blah blah blah....

Hope all these helps and good luck!

[ahpaul25]

Originally Posted by nakamara

Ya lor...i also quite a possessive freak...if i see my gf dancing with another guy at disco I'll prob go ballistic...yup i caught her lying a few times also and i scolded her like fuck...she gave excuses that she didn't wanted me to be angry and told a "white lie"...knn i think damn bullshit...i every tell her to tell me things honestly i won't guarantee i won't get angry but my anger will go awy after awhile la...but it's better to come clean on somethings rather than live in fear of exposing yourself in the long run right?

Knn.......I think that guy in the disco is me leh, Pai say leh, I don think it yr gf.........I thought can fling with her 1.........Lol.