Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[SingViet]

When you get married, you have to be sure that you will be able to support yr family financially. Not to mention to support kids that you may have in the future, but supporting yr wife is the basic. As most singaporean ladies have higher education, they tend to prefer to work after marriage. This will lessen the burden of the husband. this will be something that most bros will deem desirable. But singaporean ladies lack most of the virtues that singapore man desires.

marrying a vietnamese lady is a different story. As most singaporean man marry vietnamese ladies of lower education standards, its hardly possible for them to work after marriage. The singaporean husband has to provide for her. Matters get more complicated as these vietnamese ladies are often tied down by family ties. Their family members in vietnam have this idea that `all foreigners are rich' and will demand a lot from their singaporean son-in-law. To complicate matters further, most bros got to know their vietnamese spouses at KTV or other entertainment venues. Before marriage, they may have an income that is many times higher than yours. So when you cannot provide for her, first idea is for her to return to her former occupation.

To each their own. But one thing is, get married only when you are financially and emotionally stable. Marriage is not a game of sex, its a load of responsbilities

[v.killers]

Originally Posted by SingViet

When you get married, you have to be sure that you will be able to support yr family financially.

So when you cannot provide for her, first idea is for her to return to her former occupation.

To each their own. But one thing is, get married only when you are financially and emotionally stable. Marriage is not a game of sex, its a load of responsbilities

Agreed what SV is saying

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Ohhhhh... so coincidence.... we can go back together Mine from 新市縣 (Cho’. Mo’/i) too

is it?? wah swee swee....got trip buddy liao!!! tis coming new year going back???? i still doing my calculations lei hahaha...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by casannova03

is it?? wah swee swee....got trip buddy liao!!! tis coming new year going back???? i still doing my calculations lei hahaha...

Now already planning for CNY, Christmas is just next month lei...

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by SingViet

When you get married, you have to be sure that you will be able to support yr family financially. Not to mention to support kids that you may have in the future, but supporting yr wife is the basic.
marrying a vietnamese lady is a different story. As most singaporean man marry vietnamese ladies of lower education standards, its hardly possible for them to work after marriage. The singaporean husband has to provide for her.

To complicate matters further, most bros got to know their vietnamese spouses at KTV or other entertainment venues. Before marriage, they may have an income that is many times higher than yours. So when you cannot provide for her, first idea is for her to return to her former occupation.

To each their own. But one thing is, get married only when you are financially and emotionally stable. Marriage is not a game of sex, its a load of responsbilities

Actually, I feel that there are many other avenues la. yes they may not as educated. but in my case, i encouraged my wife to take up skills like hair cutting, beauty and manicure and pedicure...these skills will enable her to get a job. Also this will provide an additional source of income...not much but 1-1.3k per month can help pay for a lot of things....since my wife started working, she has taken over sending money back to vietnam and i have been relieved of that duty!!

So, its really how much your wife loves you.. if she is the type that play card, sit back relax type who waits for money, then sorry ....too bad. I would like to think that those who married for the correct reason, love you, will not mind sharing the household burden with you.

For me, i really feel i have not given my wife a good life. I feel i have let her down...she expects little from me but i have not given her much and she has stood by me all these years...

so if she really loves you, i doubt she will turn back to her old ways...

[jackbl]

Its never too early to plan for CNY cos when the time get nearer, there could be NO seat for the flight...

I never plan for trip to HCM/Village during CNY cos u may meet up with many relatives there and then .. u know what la....

I still dun feel easy goin to village

Originally Posted by casannova03

is it?? wah swee swee....got trip buddy liao!!! tis coming new year going back???? i still doing my calculations lei hahaha...

[jackbl]

Wow she is so capable to get a job here.... not easy to get a job for not so highly educated foreigner.... Sincerely wish u and ur wife a blissed marriage

Originally Posted by casannova03

Also this will provide an additional source of income...not much but 1-1.3k per month can help pay for a lot of things....since my wife started working, she has taken over sending money back to vietnam and i have been relieved of that duty!!

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

When you get married, you have to be sure that you will be able to support yr family financially..... To each their own. But one thing is, get married only when you are financially and emotionally stable. Marriage is not a game of sex, its a load of responsbilities

Agree totally.

Originally Posted by casannova03

Actually, I feel that there are many other avenues la. yes they may not as educated. but in my case, i encouraged my wife to take up skills like hair cutting, beauty and manicure and pedicure...these skills will enable her to get a job.......

Agree as well.

No matter where you know the gals, there are gals who are wifey material.
there are gals who are mistress material, there are gals who xao nhieu nhieu...

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Its never too early to plan for CNY cos when the time get nearer, there could be NO seat for the flight...

I never plan for trip to HCM/Village during CNY cos u may meet up with many relatives there and then .. u know what la....

I still dun feel easy goin to village

yeah man...normally i only go back after the 3rd day of new year cos must finish visiting relatives in singapore first..

Actually i have no fear of going back to village la...cos normally i only give to my wife's siblings and parents. The rest she will settle...like 2 dollar to 5dollars our money to others...depends on your wife mentality really...

actually anyone can get a cert in skills..you can ask your wife go learn also ma..its a decent occupation anyway. however, the initial investment is quite a sum la...paid 4k for my wife to learn those skills and she gave up on haircutting half way cos too tough.. and i paid in installments. At least she learned skills rather than give the money back home for nothing ...so for this i am willing to pay la...and of course i did my mathematics...sfter that she got a job at a beauty house...one of the quite big ones but left for a smaller one cos big companies have quota to meet and she dun like.. have have been earning on average 1- 1.3k per month.... and she sends money back on her own after that...

[David_Villa]

Bro,

do u know where to get vietnamese intepreter for ROM? and how much is the charges?

[SingViet]

TET is always not a good time to go back to province with your wife. From transportation to any other thing, its much more expensive. The next thing is that there's no excuse not to give money during such important festive season.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

TET is always not a good time to go back to province with your wife. From transportation to any other thing, its much more expensive. The next thing is that there's no excuse not to give money during such important festive season.

Last TET, I stay in HCMC with my gf for many days. All her family members went but to hmetown. She never ask me to go. The day before that, we buy some food to cook, than eat the same cooked food for 3 days.

This coming TET, I told her i may not be going HCMC as I will be there end of dec and mid of jan already. Air ticket during TET also expensive. So she ask me stay in Siilypore to accompany my parents.

Lucky...

[Darkstorm]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Only 2 things to them by bringing you back:

1) To show their friends and relatives that she got a SINGAPOREAN boyfriend... Viets are well known for face-value... if got chance, they will show off to their friends and at the same time for the parents to determine if you are richand generous.

2) Chinese New year coming...need $ to buy this and that...Where do the $ come from? It is YOU... THE MONEY GOD going to visit them.

If you want to visit them, dont go during their chinese new year. Better be safe

Thanks for your advice. Appreciated.

[Darkstorm]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Put it in this way... Yes and No. Only you know the answer cause the way she treats u, the way she helps to spend/save $ for you and the way she takes care of you.. by now you should know.


Dont let yor decisions be clouded by FEELINGS or KC... ok? take care.

Again, thanks for your advice. Appreciated.

[Darkstorm]

Originally Posted by vlover

Like what FL Lover said, most of the viet girls will invite you to look for them in HCMC or their hometown.. But your case more susceptible to being a carrot because during this festive season, they will need more money to buy things (showing off mayb)..

I got one experience to relate.. just broke up with my ex in singapore, felt the need for a holiday.. so went over HCMC (my virgin trip).. as I was alone and it was a last min thing, I had no friends or knew anyone from the forum.. So I contacted a viet girl who was working in Singapore at that time and looked for her.. For the next 5 days, she was like super glue.. glued to me where ever I go.. I even had to resort to the 'quarrel' method to sneak out for a hairwash session.. after that trip, the next time round when she came to Singapore, she treated me like her bf.. from my limited tieng viet, she has concluded that I am the one for her just because I went to HCMC to find her The good things from tat trip were she didnt spend alot of money during the time with me and I got a tour guide.. needless to say, I missed out on a lot of other fun things ..

Regards,
vlover

Thanks for your advice and for relating your experience.