Advise please

[delifrance]

it's called self-denial. different people has different personalities and choices as to how to tackle their own problem. right now this person Jun/chu is airing his views because he is looking for people to listen to himself talking to himself.

this is not that bad and pathetic. there are others who ask for a listening hear and reject all possible and viable solutions and keep nagging for an answer which is not sensible and expect people to say and support his own answer which happen to be no answer at all or a sadly self-denial and self-destructive answer. There are cases like this and the worst is some answers are not only self-destructive, they destroy other people's relationships.

well, comments like "God's gift to women", "he think's he is Mr Universe and no girl should reject him" are very descriptive of differing levels of self-denial type of behaviour or self-alluding kind of behaviour.

there are also truths in the advice given by others here - most people (men and women) prefer to bet on a winner. it's very normal and it's a realistic view about humans.

[2-Nights-In-Bkk]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

My answer to him will be to let his girl work while he work and make more money. If both of them love each other, they will wait for each other. And if both still cannot think, I suggest they hug together and jump down, die better than wait for hunger to strike them both.

SC

kekekeke.....tats a good one...i've been following this thread but it seems to be a never ending story leh......hmmm...

if both of them love each other, the gal should leave the man....i mean stop making him gian for her....but he also must understand the situation lah.....but i dun think he does.....so,my advise for him is go bkk (no $ also can go,she truly love u,tat means no problem staying with her lah)....live in bkk with her and no need come back spore...best solution swee swee...

[ryanlim]

Jun.........can i be there too???

[Jun|ch|]

Originally Posted by siamcutey

I don't think he think this way. IMHO, I feel he is lost. He is living in his fantasy world. He wants to take care his girl but he is clueless. He wants to be with his girl knowing it is very hard, and he is trying to defy all odds.

My answer to him will be to let his girl work while he work and make more money. If both of them love each other, they will wait for each other. And if both still cannot think, I suggest they hug together and jump down, die better than wait for hunger to strike them both.

SC

yeap i am lost now.I wishes to take care of her but seems that things are not going my way.I know its my fault that i can not take care of her. I told her that too.yup i defying all odds trying to make it work.The lovesick and stress to resolve the matter is engulfing me.

thanks for the advice"if both of them love each other, they will wait for each other" perhaps i should try to work things out with this mentality.

[Jun|ch|]

Originally Posted by 2-Nights-In-Bkk

kekekeke.....tats a good one...i've been following this thread but it seems to be a never ending story leh......hmmm...

if both of them love each other, the gal should leave the man....i mean stop making him gian for her....but he also must understand the situation lah.....but i dun think he does.....so,my advise for him is go bkk (no $ also can go,she truly love u,tat means no problem staying with her lah)....live in bkk with her and no need come back spore...best solution swee swee...

Going back to BKK now without savings will only make matters worse.She truly loves me and have intention to stay together if i do not have job these few days.But will only result in her working and me unable to work in thailand as i am still green as someone had mentioned to me.

[Jun|ch|]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

Please ask bro DNAT to be around hor.... I'm doing it cos he says you're OK in the first place

sure..if bro DNAT is free too

[2-Nights-In-Bkk]

Originally Posted by Jun|ch|

Going back to BKK now without savings will only make matters worse.She truly loves me and have intention to stay together if i do not have job these few days.But will only result in her working and me unable to work in thailand as i am still green as someone had mentioned to me.

pls leh bro,wah lan eh.....u still dunno wat the f.....we +++ing abt....to put it straight across to u....i'm quite sure (99%) that she DON'T truly love u.she's just tickling ur ass,making u go back to bkk to look for her, book her,pay her etc......have u ever go bkk,sleep with her,poke her without paying her? if yes,initially she said dun want take your $,u soft hearted and paid her in another way....in the end,she also take your $.....correct me if i'm wrong.

[Snuber]

Originally Posted by Jun|ch|

I wishes to take care of her but seems that things are not going my way.I know its my fault that i can not take care of her. I told her that too.yup i defying all odds trying to make it work.The lovesick and stress to resolve the matter is engulfing me.

My advice to you is

1) If you can take it, in the sense that she is being touched by customers here & there, then it's ok & try to be strong for it's not easy.

2) If you can't take it, then it's better that the both of you part mutually.

[ruhua]

Originally Posted by 2-Nights-In-Bkk

pls leh bro,wah lan eh.....u still dunno wat the f.....we +++ing abt....to put it straight across to u....i'm quite sure (99%) that she DON'T truly love u.she's just tickling ur ass,making u go back to bkk to look for her, book her,pay her etc......have u ever go bkk,sleep with her,poke her without paying her? if yes,initially she said dun want take your $,u soft hearted and paid her in another way....in the end,she also take your $.....correct me if i'm wrong.

Of all 390+ postings on this thread. Your comments are the most on point. No time wasting analysis. Harsh but all true. All other postings don't need to read except for post #397. Sums up everything.

[delifrance]

one view is to look at the girl's intentions, the other is to look at your own intentions. many times, the illusion need not be woven and spun by the woman, the man screws himself first and again and again, the woman just waits and receives the offerings made by the man in his hunger for the woman.

regardless of the woman being sincere or playing tricks, the man's actions and intentions usually determine how far he goes and this in turn creates turmoil for the man's emotions because the man will have expectations which may or may not be fulfilled.

*shrug*

[Jun|ch|]

Originally Posted by 2-Nights-In-Bkk

pls leh bro,wah lan eh.....u still dunno wat the f.....we +++ing abt....to put it straight across to u....i'm quite sure (99%) that she DON'T truly love u.she's just tickling ur ass,making u go back to bkk to look for her, book her,pay her etc......have u ever go bkk,sleep with her,poke her without paying her? if yes,initially she said dun want take your $,u soft hearted and paid her in another way....in the end,she also take your $.....correct me if i'm wrong.

let me put it straight back to u then... i only paid for her BF first time i saw her. since then all these 3months i been visiting her,whenever she spent days with me,especially this current visit of 2 weeks,the time she spent with me all this while and not going to work,she paid herself all in all the BFs.I never sponsored her all this while. I never paid her even for the first LT i went with her. All this 3 months i only gave her 2 times money out of my 10visits.which was 1000baht twice.And she had spent more than 25000baht in this relationship alone.I never paid her for sex but only paid for my own accomodation and daily expenses.In fact there were twice in BKK i was short of $$ and she helped in paying for the daily expenses and accomodation..Guess she must be really an idoit to spend money on someone she knows she is unable to dig any money out. no offence but this is the truth

[Jun|ch|]

Originally Posted by Snuber

My advice to you is

1) If you can take it, in the sense that she is being touched by customers here & there, then it's ok & try to be strong for it's not easy.

2) If you can't take it, then it's better that the both of you part mutually.

yeah it is not easy to accept that and i trying at the moment since i cant take care of her.

[ruhua]

Originally Posted by Jun|ch|

let me put it straight back to u then... i only paid for her BF first time i saw her. since then all these 3months i been visiting her,whenever she spent days with me,especially this current visit of 2 weeks,the time she spent with me all this while and not going to work,she paid herself all in all the BFs.I never sponsored her all this while. I never paid her even for the first LT i went with her. All this 3 months i only gave her 2 times money out of my 10visits.which was 1000baht twice.And she had spent more than 25000baht in this relationship alone.I never paid her for sex but only paid for my own accomodation and daily expenses.In fact there were twice in BKK i was short of $$ and she helped in paying for the daily expenses and accomodation..Guess she must be really an idoit to spend money on someone she knows she is unable to dig any money out. no offence but this is the truth

Good for you then. The only way to try and make your relationship work is to work hard and earn more money.

[Jun|ch|]

Originally Posted by ruhua

Good for you then. The only way to try and make your relationship work is to work hard and earn more money.

yes that is the only and best solution to the problem i faced now.I just need to handle the lovesick and stuffs like that. Its going to be a long walk unless i can convince my parents to let her come stay with me.

[ruhua]

Originally Posted by Jun|ch|

yes that is the only and best solution to the problem i faced now.I just need to handle the lovesick and stuffs like that. Its going to be a long walk unless i can convince my parents to let her come stay with me.

More problems (financially) if you bring her here to Singapore. If not why you think Ah Peks drink Singha beer in kopi tiam? More cost effective lah.