Gers Are Still Gers

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by ryanlim

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sometimes need "shock effect" to shock them to pay attention mah...

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[ryanlim]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

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sometimes need "shock effect" to shock them to pay attention mah...

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hmmmm.......wonder whether Bro Monkeybiz tried it out!!!!!!!

waiting eagerly to know what's the reaction of the gal

I forgot who mentioned 'know how to cook doesn't mean u'll do the cooking'. I cooked for my b.f everytime he feel like eating my cooking. I believed there're more cooking to do when we get married cos I'm going to be a house wife most prob. By the way, don't keep complpaining about gals, what bout u guyz, u think u all are great? HUH? If u don't understand a gal, u expect a gal to understand u? Forget it. Gals doesn't have to be submissive all the time. Yes, this is morden times, so wake up u guyz, stop dreaming of getting ur dream gal.

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by thaivisitor

I remembered once, because I'm out late, an ex tried to take an overdose while staying with me, and keep calling me over the phone to ask me to come back.

When I finally reach home, she was on the couch, so I just pick up the phone call the ambulance and she ended up in Changi Hospital. Fucks! from the hospital, she also keep calling me, that I unplugged the phone and just go to sleep.

Morning I just pack her things for her in a bag, and when she came back, ask her politely to leave and told her I don't want the trouble of having someone die in my house or else the resale value will drop.

Not meaning I'm heartless or anything like that, but too bad as I don't like to be "blackmail" or "controlled" this way, if you know what I mean.

Got ur meaning there. ur ex-gf's tactic is exactly the same as my ex. Every few day, she would deliver suicide writs via the voice line. Crap. It was damn annoying.

One day, when she issued her usual death threat, I sat back on the bench told her, "please...." She ran off in a huff, only to return with a fiery red face. I don't know whether to laugh or not. The way girls like her issue death threats is like so funny, so serious yet so unreal. O_o If want to jump, don't come back, rite?

Thank goodness my parents knew what sort of person she was and stood by me, throughout my emotional ordeal with this looney xiao mei mei.

I felt the same way too. Being held "emotional hostage" every now and then is annoying, thats why younger girls cannot anyhow "pray pray". You did the right thing, besides you have every right to ask her to pack. On the other hand, so long as you are dating a young girl "fresh from school", there is always the risk that she might attempt some of those "stunts" from the tv romance dramas. It sounds sick to me, but that is what the media does. ie, corrupt the young minds and leave the mess to the rest

[vesfreq]

Originally Posted by popi

I forgot who mentioned 'know how to cook doesn't mean u'll do the cooking'. I cooked for my b.f everytime he feel like eating my cooking. I believed there're more cooking to do when we get married cos I'm going to be a house wife most prob. By the way, don't keep complpaining about gals, what bout u guyz, u think u all are great? HUH? If u don't understand a gal, u expect a gal to understand u? Forget it. Gals doesn't have to be submissive all the time. Yes, this is morden times, so wake up u guyz, stop dreaming of getting ur dream gal.

It was never about finding a submissive companion. The whole crap thing is that most of the girls today have forgotten the necessity of respect and what does the lack of it lead to.

In these modern times, women have every right to demand for anything. But... they need not get everything they want, whenever they "demand". If you want a dark horse, others have every similar right to reciprocate with a quaking dodo.

There is nothing wrong with dreaming. However, it is most certainly a sin to demand without merit and just and without due regard to the fact that guys are just as human as girls.

You can stipulate a long gargantuan list of whatever great deeds you may have so-claimed to have done for your bf. The fact is, a personal experience does not merit a statistical truth in anything. Guys here are probably more concerned about how unforgiving, unrealistic, materialistic, nonsensical, insolent and ill-mannered the new generation females of today have become.

Where our parents have done well in marriage, why is it that we can't do just as well? In their time and age, divorces were taboo, while in ours time, divorces appear to be convenient resolutions to perceived "irreconciliable" differences. While in their time, chivalry, integrity and honesty were the basic fundamentals of character development, our time has witnessed greed and deceit as the equivalent fundamentals of today.

There are bigger issues here than whatever things you have done for your bf. I hate to say that, though it is really my own point of view.

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by free

Agree. That was probably the biggest mistake I made in my ex r/s. I took it all, in trying to love her and make her happy. Until I imploded inside and then it is all over. She tried hard to save the r/s and changed drastically, but it was already too late. My love for her had died. Nothing left in my heart, Told her I gave her the last chance 2 weeks ago (before the day I gave up) when I went to her and told her I am drowning. Instead of hearing me and responding accordingly , she further dunked my head underwater, and held it there. It was a sad day, when my heart died - completely.

You missed the bus, you can always take the next bus but you can never evertake the same bus again. The tming is just not right.

[Five Stone]

Originally Posted by free

Dun wait. Talk to her now. Let her know that u love her & treasure the r/s with her and wants it to be better (do u really?). Else the r/s may have to end if things doesn't change. Unless of course u already dun want it. If u do, don't wait, less your heart died before u even know it yourself.

It happened to me.

Agree. Strike the iron when it is hot, again prepare yourself and herself for it. No need to do anything exceptional, as per any other normal day but just be in nice, cosy and quiet place will do. At times, things just happened without your knowledge.

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by vesfreq

Singapore girls are just so damn difficult to handle. The culture and environment have, basically, changed the way they are.

Anyway, other than those you suffered from, my ex even threatened to jump off the building where I stay... and throw hot boiling stuff on me. Awww... boy.
Yeah, threats, aimless, pointless, useless remarks coming from a shit that happens where food and air happens to go in from. What's the point when it doesn't does anyone good but more than often jepardize the whole relationship?

I only long for a simple relationship, not one which promises hot soup (literally) and suicide threats. Life is short enough as it is. And, I don't think I need a mad looney woman to spoil it all. sigh....
I too, believe that we long for simple relationship, a soul mate, a person to talk to and discuss things over. Not someone who sprout brainless remarks and jump to conclusion at the slightest twitch of our ass.

And, IMO, simple relationship doesn't mean submissive partners. It means mutual respect and mature beliefs and attitudes. These are stuff which most Singapore women seem to have problems doing. Not that it is bothering me, but respect is the simplest form of goodwill that any person of sound mind can offer.
Clap Clap. As I said who wants a submissive GF of wife?? I swear to god if I ever find one, I will be here as well blabbering non stop all over again. Bottomline, one who uses her brain more than usng her mouth.
Girls with boobs and pretty faces can stay in the shelves for as long as they want. Ultimately, appearances wane after a while, not that humans are not attracted by physical features. The thing is, there has to be something worth holding onto, in a relationship. And, this is, imo, something which will make a relationship work out.

My ex didn't understand this. Every week when I met her, she would throw tantrums thinking that it would enhance the amount of drama in the relationship. Sadly, it didn't. It made me anything but a bitter man.
"Am I pretty", "Do I look good,"...........Once this started, there is no end. Ya, she complained I I do not compliment her enough but when I started to, it becomes a "MUST", a routine, a take it for granted.......
Worst of all is, the fundamental law of nature states that good girls will and always end up with bad guys. Girls with a string of good attributes (ie, faithful, loyal, attractive... etc) will almost always land up with guys having less than matching characters. And, vice versa.

If not for the fact that good girls have positive good attributes, "bad guys" wouldn't have courted them in the first place. Whilst the reverse is true for girls with less than desireable attributes, unfortunately. All things being equal, the world we live in is already one tainted by twisted odd unintelligible socio-behavioural patterns. Perhaps, madness had not found a better home than today.
For the above, I beg to differ though, I guess nowadays relationship developing was distracted by too many other things in life, in return blinding us from the obvious loathe of each other. I guess other than looks, wealth, I guess we better spent more time understanding each other before we sign our life away.

Just my two cents' worth....

[Monkeybiz]

Originally Posted by ryanlim

hmmmm.......wonder whether Bro Monkeybiz tried it out!!!!!!!

waiting eagerly to know what's the reaction of the gal

erm... it didn't turned out as I expected.
I told her something like "There might be times when I won't be around, so if you met a nice guy, most likely you'll go with him right?"
Her: wat u toking?
Me: I think I can't stand your ways but I'm trying to make things work
Her: wat u mean?
Me: Actually I think if things won't work out between us, no point if I'm trying to stress up myself just to suit you. I've tried my best and all I've gotten are distance and irritations.
Her: I where got irritate you?
Me: your fickle-minded decisions and your temper as well.
Her: ....

It ended up she haven't called me since then.
I guess I might have to call up her close friend to see how she's feeling.

Ha! Obviously ur saying u wanna break up with her, what do U expect her to do or say? U've already mentioned u both can't suit, no point u acting so stressed up to suit her and u expect her to change herself to suit u? Com'on. I guessed she think there's no point being with U since U've said what u feel. I think she too feel disappointed in the relationship. Even if u wanna patch up with her again, I guess she'll still be the same.

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by Monkeybiz

erm... it didn't turned out as I expected.
I told her something like "There might be times when I won't be around, so if you met a nice guy, most likely you'll go with him right?"
Her: wat u toking?
Me: I think I can't stand your ways but I'm trying to make things work
Her: wat u mean?
Me: Actually I think if things won't work out between us, no point if I'm trying to stress up myself just to suit you. I've tried my best and all I've gotten are distance and irritations.
Her: I where got irritate you?
Me: your fickle-minded decisions and your temper as well.
Her: ....

It ended up she haven't called me since then.
I guess I might have to call up her close friend to see how she's feeling.

Call for what? And if she's crying, upset, etc, etc? What you gonna do? go back? No? then explain again? Then she cry and upset again?

Not telling you to be heartless, just to make the "pain" a little shorter, don't "disturb" her and let her go thru it.

Contacting will make thins worse for both of you.

[foolish_]

Originally Posted by popi

I forgot who mentioned 'know how to cook doesn't mean u'll do the cooking'. I cooked for my b.f everytime he feel like eating my cooking. I believed there're more cooking to do when we get married cos I'm going to be a house wife most prob. By the way, don't keep complpaining about gals, what bout u guyz, u think u all are great? HUH? If u don't understand a gal, u expect a gal to understand u? Forget it. Gals doesn't have to be submissive all the time. Yes, this is morden times, so wake up u guyz, stop dreaming of getting ur dream gal.

Not all guys are bad. Not all gers are bad.

Most guys dun dream of having a dream gal. They just dream of having a gal who dun dream that Price Charming really exist..........

[MoonBlaze]

Originally Posted by Monkeybiz

erm... it didn't turned out as I expected.
.......It ended up she haven't called me since then.
I guess I might have to call up her close friend to see how she's feeling.

Contact her within these 1 or 2 days only if you want to give it one more shot at it. (Give it a serious thought about it first). If it had been 2 days since you break the news to her, she might had done some soul searching and a good analysis of the whole relationship by now. Talk to her and ask her if she wants you in her life or not.

She has to change on her fickleness and control her temper. Likewise ask her what sort of changes she will like to see in you. There is always two side of a coin. You got to define your own limit of tolerance just in case she says she wants you to be more tolerant of her temper. Re-defining one person’s character is a very difficult. Like they say a leopard can’t change its spot. With patience and efforts one can change slowly, improve bit by bit. It takes time. Are you willing to be by her side and change her slowly or you may not want to wait that long? Most importantly, she has to assess on whether this relationship is worth her effort. Perhaps she may want to move on with her life and maybe later in life meet someone who can accept her as she is. In this world there are all sort of ppl made for others.

However, if you think that you do not want to drag any further, leave it as it is. I dun know of any good way to end a relationship but do wish her best in whatever she does in future. If you are still not able to have a peace of mind, do check out with her friend if you want to know about how she is coping. Probably that is nothing much you can do about it but be concern about her (dun need to let her know else may complicate things) going thr this patch. Afterall, she was your GF once.

Should you be talking to her, dun engage verbal battles with her. Your stand once decided must be firm no matter how she reacts (cry or etc…)

Hereby, also wish you all the best for your future endeavors, be it in work, love and life.
Any problem, feel free to come back here. Guess Bro and Sis will be willing to help.

Problems in life are experienced to make one stronger and being able to better appreciate life.

Girls will always be girls, guys will always be guys.... the 'battle' will continue and the differences will never reconcile somehow

A friend once told me:"Love is not about looking at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction...." I personally think it's good advice and will stick by it when I've found my soulmate....

Hope those who've already got soulmates and those who're looking for one, will find the happines that they're searching for....

Have a pleasant evening

[thaivisitor]

Originally Posted by popi

I forgot who mentioned 'know how to cook doesn't mean u'll do the cooking'. I cooked for my b.f everytime he feel like eating my cooking. I believed there're more cooking to do when we get married cos I'm going to be a house wife most prob. By the way, don't keep complpaining about gals, what bout u guyz, u think u all are great? HUH? If u don't understand a gal, u expect a gal to understand u? Forget it. Gals doesn't have to be submissive all the time. Yes, this is morden times, so wake up u guyz, stop dreaming of getting ur dream gal.

"poof"! huh...huh?... what happen? lucky its only a dream.... for a moment I tot girls now became men's equal .... like I said, lucky its only a dream....

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