Great advice. As another uncle here who had played my fair share of younger girls, my 2 cents is, either she is really into mature men like you (your age gap is huge) or she dunno what she want/is doing (21 is still very young), so she is just going with the flow. If you do not want to marry her for XYZ reasons, then just keep it as fwb and dun invest too much emotions in it. I know it sounds bastard, but trust me, you will thank me later - a lot of these young girls are lost and just experimenting with older men because their peers - guys in their early 20s cannot make it, still acting like some fucking teenagers inside, no money, always talking about soccer, games etc. So, if you really want to live your life out with her, then marry her. Wife material? Good mother material? That’s reserved for individual men to judge. But my advice is, if all you have for her is lust, then just fuck her and expect her to ghost u when she changes her mind. Enjoy while it lasts. But if you love her as a person, a woman of your worth, time and energy, then keep her. If you dunno what u want, then keep it as fwb until it develops further into something tangible. All u need to do is to talk about future plans with her and observe her reaction. She might not be ready. She might want to pursue her life goals. Or she might just want to be with you and have your kids. If it is the former, are u willing to accept that and wait for her till u are in your 40s? Is it love or is it lust? Only you know that…
Thank you for sharing. This advice is valid sadly. For men to be bastard as you never know when we get ghosted and we feel like an idiot for investing so much.
Came to realise this too late myself. Perhaps I’ll settle my emotions one day and be able to pen down my experience here as memories.
22-11-2024, 05:55 PM
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