All you need to know about "Marriage/Divorce" under the SG Law

[KTMer]

I am now in talks with her with regard to paying her a lump sum amount so she can close the case and leave me alone. I think it's better that way as it prevents her from "holding me by my balls" in the future. Just imagine she sees me with my flashy car and new babe. She sure tekan me with $1 maintenance option. I am already paying $1.5 k for my 2 kids maintenance. I didn't know women can be more ruthless and heartless than men. It's been an eye opener for me this time. Kinda hard for me to trust anyone now....

[cereal-killer]

Originally Posted by 99546

As Bro SaintArc say (By peaceful calm way Tis will make her guess n Hw cm u didn't make a big fuss only by Tis way she will feel more guilty n pain.) I think she will veri happy tat I not watching or suspecting her. Coz from the start, she never feel guilty till nw. From her thinking, is tat why she will end up like this, is because me. I really don noe what her thinking about? Can any sisters tell me what I have done wrong. ( Gt to believe yrself without her u will be more better off And she without u she will be in messy life. Some ladys love messy life y bother to givethem a smooth path when she dnt treasure of wat u had done.) I believe in this but I nw I don care abt her. Is I most care is abt tat my son. If don have my son, I really have gone crazy. He is e one tat gif me support, energy tat I can continue to go through till nw. Is there any sisters tell me what I have done wrong?

I read the first line, and i gave up reading

your keyboard spoil or something ?

[jondoe]

What is the range for allowance money that a man give after divorce? Let's say my salary is S$4K.

[sleeping]

Can some kind soul help to advise me accordingly. I am a bankruptcy and now i decide to divorce with my wife after more than 10 years. My questiion is:
1. Will the OA take all my money from my sale of HDB flats. Because i intend to give all the money to my wife and children after i sell the flat.
2. How long is the procedure of divorce with both party consent? Meaning that we got a ground of sleeping at different rooms for more than 3 years even under 1 roof.
Hope i can get some useful answer so i can proceed. Thks in advance

[Ninja_Assassin]

Originally Posted by sleeping

Can some kind soul help to advise me accordingly. I am a bankruptcy and now i decide to divorce with my wife after more than 10 years. My questiion is:
1. Will the OA take all my money from my sale of HDB flats. Because i intend to give all the money to my wife and children after i sell the flat.
2. How long is the procedure of divorce with both party consent? Meaning that we got a ground of sleeping at different rooms for more than 3 years even under 1 roof.
Hope i can get some useful answer so i can proceed. Thks in advance

I am not sure you are allowed to sell the flat at all. Better to clarify with the OA.
Btw, being a bankrupt is not exempted from paying maintenance hor, by hook or by crook you have to find the money to pay or go to jail.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by Ninja_Assassin

I am not sure you are allowed to sell the flat at all. Better to clarify with the OA.
Btw, being a bankrupt is not exempted from paying maintenance hor, by hook or by crook you have to find the money to pay or go to jail.

Bro bankrupt still can sell but if 5 room must seek OA approval, thou I don't understand the logic for this maybe they think 5 room more money....and you are right, bankrupt or no bankrupt the fucking family cock judges is still going to hang you out to the dryers..but last time lawyer tell me, some very bah one die die don't pay maintenance go prison a few times until the family cock judge also boh bian...tell ex spouse what else can they do except perhaps lower the maintenance....

[Schenker]

Originally Posted by sleeping

Can some kind soul help to advise me accordingly. I am a bankruptcy and now i decide to divorce with my wife after more than 10 years. My questiion is:
1. Will the OA take all my money from my sale of HDB flats. Because i intend to give all the money to my wife and children after i sell the flat.
2. How long is the procedure of divorce with both party consent? Meaning that we got a ground of sleeping at different rooms for more than 3 years even under 1 roof.
Hope i can get some useful answer so i can proceed. Thks in advance

Most impt question to you. Both u and yr wife are Singaporeans? If answer is yes, u can sell and keep the sales proceeds if any. Any one of co-owners is a undischarged bankrupt under the Singaporean household is not vested under the OA. U can sell w/o even asking OA's permission

Furthermore, during the first appointment, inform the sale officer abt yr bankruptcy. U can request HDB to issue to 2 separate cheques due to yr special circumstances on the second appt.

On the other hand, u must declare this sale proceeds in the statement of affairs and expenditure in yr next submission. Of cos yr OA will be pleased if u offer part of yr sales proceeds to contribute to yr bankruptcy estate.

U only need to seek approval, when u wish to purchase a 5-rm HDB or bigger. Or any one of the co-owners who is a SPR and intend to sell.

[superavatar]

I am paying maintenance for wife and two children. One of my children has just completed her degree and is 23 years ago. Can I apply to stop paying maintenance for her, or I have to wait until she finish her honors degree? Or I have to wait till she completes her PHD?

[sexytikopek]

Originally Posted by superavatar

I am paying maintenance for wife and two children. One of my children has just completed her degree and is 23 years ago. Can I apply to stop paying maintenance for her, or I have to wait until she finish her honors degree? Or I have to wait till she completes her PHD?

brother, maintenance for children stops when he/she reach 21 years old.. After that is optional ..

[superavatar]

Originally Posted by sexytikopek

brother, maintenance for children stops when he/she reach 21 years old.. After that is optional ..

Not when the are still studying. The judge award the maintenance to wife and children when my eldest is 22 years old. My question is when can I stop the maintenance of my children. When they first their basic degree, or honors degree, or masters or PHD?

[DarthVader63]

I read some of the stories here i really feel like crying

It seems that the women's charter is really being abused, and all this
nonsense was actually started by AWARE

We men should set-up AMARE (Association of Men for Action and Research)
to give AWARE (Association of Women for Action and Research) a run for
their money. They have it too good for too long.

With this organisation if we can raise enough awareness and votes, we can
maybe even send our own members into parliament . I bet is there are
enough members in the organisation we can sway the votes and make the
state take notice of us and maybe even do political donations to those who
are willing to listen, which i am sure there are, basicallly lobby them

Maybe i should start such a website and a forum and have people sign up as
members and everyone just try to help out each other in advice and hopefully
have enough members to ensure the state takes notice of us as a powerful
voting force

What you guys think, any thoughts

[Lone_Wolf]

Originally Posted by DarthVader63

I read some of the stories here i really feel like crying

It seems that the women's charter is really being abused, and all this
nonsense was actually started by AWARE

We men should set-up AMARE (Association of Men for Action and Research)
to give AWARE (Association of Women for Action and Research) a run for
their money. They have it too good for too long.

With this organisation if we can raise enough awareness and votes, we can
maybe even send our own members into parliament . I bet is there are
enough members in the organisation we can sway the votes and make the
state take notice of us and maybe even do political donations to those who
are willing to listen, which i am sure there are, basicallly lobby them

Maybe i should start such a website and a forum and have people sign up as
members and everyone just try to help out each other in advice and hopefully
have enough members to ensure the state takes notice of us as a powerful
voting force

What you guys think, any thoughts

Good suggestion! I will sign up to join you if you go ahead.

[Camel]

Guys, got 1 question to ask.

I own a flat before i got married. This means i bought the flat with my CPF
before marriage and is 100% owned by me. Only my name is on the deed, my
wife name is not there at all.

My question is if there is a divorce can the family court force me to sell the
flat and give her 1/2 the falt even if the property was acquired before
marriage.

Does the law/wc only apply if the any property was acquired after marriage
that means those property bought before marriage does not apply?

Any comments would be helpful

[Xyberduke]

Originally Posted by Camel

Guys, got 1 question to ask.

I own a flat before i got married. This means i bought the flat with my CPF
before marriage and is 100% owned by me. Only my name is on the deed, my
wife name is not there at all.

My question is if there is a divorce can the family court force me to sell the
flat and give her 1/2 the falt even if the property was acquired before
marriage.

Does the law/wc only apply if the any property was acquired after marriage
that means those property bought before marriage does not apply?

Any comments would be helpful

bro, you're in bad luck. put in layman's terms

first you go into mediation and see how much you want to give her...
assuming everything fails and both of you file affidavits...

joint assets would be split accordingly AND afterwhich, she gets a certain percentage more (deducted from yours) depending on the years of marriage if you earn more than her.

if you have children, all your assets would add up compared with hers, to determine the percentage of child maintenance(depending on child's age and expenses) you have to pay.

If it's held solely in your name, but both of you are living in it, that complicates matters.

If you're not staying in it and purely using it as investment, it would form part of your declared assets for court's assessment on the percentage to give her. court won't force u to sell. but if flat cost $10, and you have $1 in bank, your assets is $11. If she only has $1 in bank and owns nothing... it's a 11:1 ratio... of course this is not the exact calculation, but depicted in a way layman can understand.


Don't be gungho to offer anything, check with your lawyer what are the precedence cases and offer way below for neg. Women are emotional and lawyers love them... they would think whatever you offered is low and try to ask for ridculously more (to live a better life than they were with you or think they don't have to contribute child maintenance) only for court to wake them up eventually. and both parties loses $$... Only beneficially are the lawyers. Must remember, very often lawyer will tell female clients they have confident to fight for more even when slapped with a deal better than what the court would give before affidavits, and that's only because they base it on evidence that has yet to be submitted, so possibility is always there even if the probability is 0.0001%. So most female undergoing divorce spend quite a bit of unnecessary $ in divorce. So check with your lawyer, and don't hesitate to go into affidavits... mediation in court today are.. no comments.... my opinion: if i go into a law school, graduate with top honors, i'll become a big lawyers earning big bucks and not join goverment service to be a judge...

[Lone_Wolf]

Originally Posted by Camel

Guys, got 1 question to ask.

I own a flat before i got married. This means i bought the flat with my CPF
before marriage and is 100% owned by me. Only my name is on the deed, my
wife name is not there at all.

My question is if there is a divorce can the family court force me to sell the
flat and give her 1/2 the falt even if the property was acquired before
marriage.

Does the law/wc only apply if the any property was acquired after marriage
that means those property bought before marriage does not apply?

Any comments would be helpful

This is exactly where the Womens Charter screws you up. All the assets you own before marriage becomes joint assets but all her assets remain as her sole property. On the issue of your flat, if both of you residing there after your marriage it is considered a matrimonial flat....... she is deemed to have a share of it subject to HDB conditions.


F*CK THE WOMENS CHARTER !!